Don't know if there is one site that spells it all out for you, but if your looking for strats ...
http://www.eq2zone.com/You will have to register, but they have some good base strats for SF raid zones. Take everything you read with a grain of salt and remember you may have to tweak these to work for your raid, but a GREAT place to start when you have no info on a new fight.
I've been raid leader for a casual guild for a few years now, we only raid 2-3 hours a night 3 nights a week, and we all have busy lives. Also being an EST raiding guild, its nice I can get on after the kids are in bed. We don't progress as fast as the more hardcore guilds but we just enjoy playing together and figuring out new strats with each other. We are far more geared then your average player cause we farm the raid zones as much as we can.
Our Main Tank group consists of Plate Tank, Dirge, Chain Healer, Plate healer, Coercer, and Swashy (for hate Xfer), OT group should be as close to that as possible. I then have a mage group with Troubie, Illy, Necro, Conjy, Wizzy, and healer. And the last group is usually what I call the "Short Bus Group" and its where I make the best of the classes I have left.
A few pieces of advice I can give ya from my experience...
-In a X4 raid you will want one bard and one enchanter per group. The groups with no chanter run out of power and bards do wonders buff wise. This makes things 100 times easier.
-If you guys are new to raiding you will most likely want 2 healers per group also.
-Extra tanks dont do much for the raid and you should never need more then 3 tanks. (Most cases you will only need 2)
I've been raiding EQ2 for years and loving raids this expansion more then ever. They really did a great job with the raid zones this time. I'd be happy to answer any question from my experience, so either ask here or PM me. Some more the more hardcore guilds like to keep their raid info **Hush Hush** for whatever reason, so you may not find a lot of info out there.
